tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post7156677816414681238..comments2023-10-26T14:24:47.978+01:00Comments on (Old) Musings of a Quaker Witch: Another cost of bigotry, classism, bullying, homophobia, and heterosexismMorganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05201286586062722169noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-49863523096713233322009-02-19T19:42:00.000+00:002009-02-19T19:42:00.000+00:00G, thank you. (And lovely to "see" you here.) Wh...G, thank you. (And lovely to "see" you here.) What you say makes a lot of sense. I think my high school may have been even more of an artificial hothouse than many. But like any young teenager has the perspective to know how to deal with that? <BR/><BR/>Like you, I'm so thankful the real world is different! <BR/><BR/>And perhaps now is a good chance to find out that some of those girls have grown up... An opportunity I hadn't thought of.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201286586062722169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-67728913271680810132009-02-19T10:01:00.000+00:002009-02-19T10:01:00.000+00:00(G from SCD in Ann Arbor here)Stasha, thanks for s...(G from SCD in Ann Arbor here)<BR/>Stasha, thanks for sharing that. I'm really sorry you had such an awful experience in HS. A lot of people have really bad experiences in HS (although it sounds like you've had worse than most). The fact is that high school is a really strange, unnatural environment that brings out the worst in people. Never in your life ever again are you in a situation where you are spending all your time with people of exactly your same age, in the same place not because of any common interest or pursuit, but by chance, and all of whom have almost no choice to change venue. When people get into the "real world" (and despite the BNL song, there is a real world that's a lot different -- thank God) things are different, and a lot of people have to change their attitudes. That's been my experience with meeting people from high school.<BR/><BR/>I guess what I'm trying to say is that most of those girls have probably grown up; and those who haven't really deserve of your pity, not your fear.Martyroshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05810925737950303383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-81761904898373377202009-02-18T20:09:00.000+00:002009-02-18T20:09:00.000+00:00Hi, Michelle -- Thanks for your comment. Both ret...Hi, Michelle -- Thanks for your comment. Both retreats (the Meeting one, and FLGBTQC Mid-Winter) were good, it's true. <BR/><BR/>I have no fear about anyone from college -- just one year later -- knowing I'm a lesbian. Obviously, I've made the decision to be out in general, or my first name and last name wouldn't be on this blog. So it's kind of startled me how much that fear is still there for people from high school. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone.<BR/><BR/>I wonder, sometimes, if the confrontation with the high school counselor might have been more a meeting and less a confrontation if my ex-mother hadn't been involved... but who knows. The faculty still didn't protect me from bullying from other girls. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing, too.Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201286586062722169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-27894938165006403602009-02-18T19:10:00.000+00:002009-02-18T19:10:00.000+00:00It sounds like some really good reflection came ou...It sounds like some really good reflection came out of the retreat. I really like your writing. I have had similar shame around not wanting to have people from high school know I am a lesbian. I never had a experience like that with a counselor though. That sounds extremely stressful. Thanks for the sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16746869856270080722noreply@blogger.com