tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post7758374980999067167..comments2023-10-26T14:24:47.978+01:00Comments on (Old) Musings of a Quaker Witch: Friends Journal article on young families; other thoughts on accessibilityMorganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05201286586062722169noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-24951577668845723292011-03-07T01:45:58.550+00:002011-03-07T01:45:58.550+00:00Hedra -- thank you for what you said about perspec...Hedra -- thank you for what you said about perspective. That really helps me. <br /><br />Hystery, thank you. I welcome both your thoughts and your silent holding/waiting...Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05201286586062722169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-113372152242476492011-03-05T23:16:08.380+00:002011-03-05T23:16:08.380+00:00I appreciated the original article on which your p...I appreciated the original article on which your post is based and I love your reaction to it. A flurry of comments and personal examples spring to mind, but I'll just thank you for your thoughts here which I find speak to me in my own need as an individual and as the mother of three Quaker children.Hysteryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02044678910937934731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1785248711810287089.post-46820640350998412982011-03-04T01:41:14.560+00:002011-03-04T01:41:14.560+00:00This is not that far from what Will and I teach fo...This is not that far from what Will and I teach for parenting from a Montessori perspective. Children are only temporarily unable to adults, so if we think in terms of how we would treat a beloved adult with a temporary (but potentially significant) disability, and apply that to how we treat children, it changes the perspective. We'd make ourselves uncomfortable - rearrange our homes, our lives, our schedules, our priorities, if a beloved adult who was temporarily disabled had to come live with us. We typically do much less to accommodate children in our homes, our schedules, our lives. <br /><br />An example I give is if that disabled beloved aunt needed to be taken to the doctor, and was struggling to tie her shoes as we were late getting out the door, how different would our response be, compared to a 3-year-old in the same predicament? <br /><br />Applying that lens in either direction shows where we could easily stretch, and where we assume that we should not accept/tolerate. <br /><br />It isn't by chance that one of my 'triads' is 'Acceptant, Loving, Faithful' - it came from Quakerism, and it applies right back to Meeting.Hedranoreply@blogger.com